Scream, Surrender
Some people just need to, you know?
I used to be that type, until very recently, actually. Scream it out, sob and shudder it out, run it out. Everyone once and a while I still drink it out, but not that often, haha. More often than not now I grab a book, do yoga, walk, meditate, go stand in a field and talk to myself very loudly about how fucking annoying whatever it is...is.
But nevertheless, some people need to, or rather, they think they do. But it's the same thing, really. And a lot of people scream silently, so silently that they're not even really aware that they're doing it. And so, my mantra became "you've gotta let them". Because one day they'll be done screaming and fighting and punching the air and asking why, and it's in that space that you try to teach what surrender is. Mostly not by actively teaching, but just by being what it is.
Surrender isn't weakness and letting go isn't giving up. Western culture does us a disservice by teaching that it is.
“Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it's all over.” - Gloria Naylor